In an interview with Krista Tippett on the On Being podcast, psychotherapist Esther Perel talked about what gets in the way of desire. She said: “So the question I ask, sometimes, is: “I turn myself off by …” or “I turn myself off when …” My answer: I turn myself off when…. I worry about … Continue reading “I turn myself off by…”
The narrow view
Photo by sue hughes on Unsplash In a recent conversation, it was discussed how in politics and governance, policies and laws are made by politicians/leaders who say to us “Oooo look, we have done this”, proudly pointing to the boxes they have ticked. Yet at the same time, blurring out the work, that didn’t quite reach the mark, … Continue reading The narrow view
Curious?
Photo by Bing Han on Unsplash Be careful and aware of assumptions and their navigation on your life, on your thinking, on your way of seeing and being. Because tension and conflict are often the results of our assumptions, not facts. What narrative are you believing and defending, that if you’re honest isn’t based on … Continue reading Curious?
Loud Thoughts
I was laying in bed, brooding about my day when it came to me that I was having “Loud thoughts”. Loud because the increased volume and repetition of this thinking were demanding my attention and upsetting my peace. There would be no sleep with all this noise. Loud is insistent. She thinks we should … Continue reading Loud Thoughts
Time Blocking
I struggle at times to keep focused when I am reading or studying. The little voice in my head chirps in with helpful suggestions of tasks I could be doing instead... The washing, preparing food, mowing lawns! As a result, the time studying, can often feel like I’ve ticked a box, but not really. … Continue reading Time Blocking
Improvisational friends
I am constantly working on my listening skills and trying to keep the advice monster at bay. These good intentions of mine regularly need a reset, often daily, in an ongoing effort to “try again.” Michael Lewis on The Tim Ferriss podcast shared how he and his close friends tend to obey the rules … Continue reading Improvisational friends
Post Lockdown
Post lockdown needs all-hands on deck. It needs people who go the extra mile. Who exceed expectations. Who pick up the slack. Who say “Yes, I can” Instead of “No, I can’t.” Or “No, I won’t.” Post lockdown needs people who don’t need to be asked. Who don’t wait to be invited. Who will … Continue reading Post Lockdown
Seeing you
In our kiwi lockdown, the only outing you can have with your “bubble” is a local walk or bike ride. With so many of us out and about, getting fresh air and exercise, keeping the two-metre distance from oncoming pedestrians or cyclists in the name of social distancing is a bit of a tactical … Continue reading Seeing you
Bubble living
Here in New Zealand, we are on day 4 of the COVID19 lockdown. It's early days but so far these ideas are helping me keep our Bubble intact and joyful... I would love to hear yours, so please share in the comments section below. Let the people you live with, do lockdown their way. … Continue reading Bubble living
72 hours
Its probably been 25 years+ since I read the book, “The trick to money is having some” by Stuart Wilde but this quote thankfully surfaced in my mind this week... “You don’t need a million dollars necessarily or a stockpile of Swiss francs [or a store cupboard of toilet paper] to feel ok. It … Continue reading 72 hours
