Last week my son wasn’t feeling well, so I asked him a series of questions about his symptoms. Within minutes, he said, “No more questions”. As I reflected on that later I realised that my enquiries into his well-being were also driven by a need in me to hear that he was ok. If he … Continue reading No more questions.
Category: Listening
The promise that changes everything
Photo by Christina @ wocintechchat.com on Unsplash I’ve just finished reading “The promise that changes everything” by Nancy Kline. The promise that changes everything…. I won’t interrupt you. Ever since reading this book – I’ve been trying. Really trying. And mostly failing. I console myself – that each conversation is another opportunity to practice. I … Continue reading The promise that changes everything
Curious?
Photo by Bing Han on Unsplash Be careful and aware of assumptions and their navigation on your life, on your thinking, on your way of seeing and being. Because tension and conflict are often the results of our assumptions, not facts. What narrative are you believing and defending, that if you’re honest isn’t based on … Continue reading Curious?
Improvisational friends
I am constantly working on my listening skills and trying to keep the advice monster at bay. These good intentions of mine regularly need a reset, often daily, in an ongoing effort to “try again.” Michael Lewis on The Tim Ferriss podcast shared how he and his close friends tend to obey the rules … Continue reading Improvisational friends
No more advice!
This week I gave a friend advice on how to get from where she was to where I thought she wanted to be. Quickly. Hands dusted, job done! That good advice didn’t pan out well. I felt confronted by a realisation. And not a new one… That instead of giving advice, I need to … Continue reading No more advice!
Growth in mind
Decision paralysis is easy to achieve in a day filled with options and choices. So how do we filter the magnitude of decisions wisely without feeling FOMO? It came to me the other day, that I need to think about my choices with growth in mind and the side note to this was, and … Continue reading Growth in mind
Being heard
On the night of the shootings in Christchurch, I was watching the news when my brother video-called me. He asked if I was ok and I started to cry. He didn't say anything else, just held the space for me to be sad. His focused presence touched my heart. My brother often gives me a hard … Continue reading Being heard
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