We often measure our self-worth by what we have or how well we are doing. Yet when it comes to the people whom we like spending time with the most, it’s not what they have or what they have done that makes that so, it’s who they are… and how they make us feel. “What … Continue reading Love
Category: Relationships
Differences
“In this way we are like the various parts of a human body. Each part gets its meaning from the body as a whole, not the other way around. The body we’re talking about is Christ’s body of chosen people. Each of us finds our meaning and function as a part of his body. But … Continue reading Differences
Holding…
When it comes to exercise, my intention to move plays out daily and as a result, my muscles strengthen, and increasing my fitness becomes easier. The more I move, the more I can move. But when it comes to nagging my intention to NOT nag, is not so successful. When I have the intention to … Continue reading Holding…
Words matter
I remember a story Joyce Meyer told once about how she and her husband were having a fight one afternoon when the doorbell rang unexpectedly. Joyce recounts how when she opened the door to see her pastor standing there, she was able to immediately switch from being angry at her husband to all smiles and … Continue reading Words matter
“I turn myself off by…”
In an interview with Krista Tippett on the On Being podcast, psychotherapist Esther Perel talked about what gets in the way of desire. She said: “So the question I ask, sometimes, is: “I turn myself off by …” or “I turn myself off when …” My answer: I turn myself off when…. I worry about … Continue reading “I turn myself off by…”
The problem is me
When something isn’t going well with a relationship or a project we tend to look out. He’s at fault! She needs to change! We might accept part of the problem but it’s common to justify putting off our change until we first see change in the other. Everyone waits. Nothing happens. Here’s what the … Continue reading The problem is me
Tough conversations
Broaching tough subjects with people we care about is hard. I know. I've avoided my fair share and one very significant one. And I can't deny that I heard the still, small voice telling me to speak. It’s easy to chicken-out of tough conversations because we don't want a fight, we don’t want to offend. … Continue reading Tough conversations
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