Today’s COVID-19 update will soon be known. My partner, watching the evening news, will feel compelled to share it with me. He knows I prefer life in a news-free bubble but still, he’ll come and say “I’ll just tell you this …” These updates and others like it, feel like someone’s recount of a … Continue reading Fear-based stress
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The problem is me
When something isn’t going well with a relationship or a project we tend to look out. He’s at fault! She needs to change! We might accept part of the problem but it’s common to justify putting off our change until we first see change in the other. Everyone waits. Nothing happens. Here’s what the … Continue reading The problem is me
Dangling carrots
An insight has inspired me to view “upsets” as dangling carrots vying for my attention. “Look at ME”, they say. “Talk about ME.” “Think about ME.” “STAY AWAKE with me!” They distract! Sometimes for hours. Sometimes for days and for one or two “issues”; actual years! Disrupting, distorting, derailing: Progress, productivity, creativity. This dangling carrot: … Continue reading Dangling carrots
Reboot Yourself
This blog post inspired me this week Hitting Reset I am sitting at my computer, typing away when the spinning wheel appears telling me the system is not responding. Computer First Aid 101 to the rescue – I shutdown and reboot. Do I ever question the magic behind the restart? No – I just … Continue reading Reboot Yourself
Worry Not
Here’s some wisdom on worry that’s worth sharing. Thanks, Dad! Whatever it is that you’re worried about, ask yourself this question… “If I don’t do anything about this situation, what will change in the next 5 minutes?” Extrapolate that question out… “What about in two hours?” “What about overnight?” “If I don’t do anything … Continue reading Worry Not
Rookie Smarts
I’ve been reading Rookie Smarts, Why Learning Beats Knowing in the New Game Of Work, by Liz Wiseman this week. She talks about how rookies tend to enter a new workplace and embark on getting up to speed as quickly as they can, boldly asking lots of questions and seeking out experts. Yet those of … Continue reading Rookie Smarts
Embracing constraints
I’ve always thought constraints were negative. After all, they tend to speak lack. A constraint can feel like a roadblock to progress. A reason to stop, to chuck the towel in. In Whitney Johnson’s podcast episode titled, Embracing Constraints, she talks about how constraints can actually help us. They can be a catalyst for … Continue reading Embracing constraints
No more advice!
This week I gave a friend advice on how to get from where she was to where I thought she wanted to be. Quickly. Hands dusted, job done! That good advice didn’t pan out well. I felt confronted by a realisation. And not a new one… That instead of giving advice, I need to … Continue reading No more advice!
Belonging vs Fitting in
Brene Brown in an interview with Krista Tippett shared part of her research with a group of middle schoolers around the difference between belonging and fitting in. And they just had these incredibly simple and profound answers: “Fitting in is when you want to be a part of something. Belonging is when others want … Continue reading Belonging vs Fitting in
Balance smellance!
“We fear excess, so we embrace mediocrity and call it balance... When it comes to our faith and our testimony, we mustn’t downplay, soft-pedal or sidestep the very things God has given us that make us distinctive. If we do, people will be disappointed and go elsewhere. The disciples didn’t blend in with the … Continue reading Balance smellance!
