When something isn’t going well with a relationship or a project we tend to look out. He’s at fault! She needs to change! We might accept part of the problem but it’s common to justify putting off our change until we first see change in the other. Everyone waits. Nothing happens. Here’s what the … Continue reading The problem is me
An insight has inspired me to view “upsets” as dangling carrots vying for my attention. “Look at ME”, they say. “Talk about ME.” “Think about ME.” “STAY AWAKE with me!” They distract! Sometimes for hours. Sometimes for days and for one or two “issues”; actual years! Disrupting, distorting, derailing: Progress, productivity, creativity. This dangling carrot: … Continue reading Dangling carrots
This blog post inspired me this week Hitting Reset I am sitting at my computer, typing away when the spinning wheel appears telling me the system is not responding. Computer First Aid 101 to the rescue – I shutdown and reboot. Do I ever question the magic behind the restart? No – I just … Continue reading Reboot Yourself
Here’s some wisdom on worry that’s worth sharing. Thanks, Dad! Whatever it is that you’re worried about, ask yourself this question… “If I don’t do anything about this situation, what will change in the next 5 minutes?” Extrapolate that question out… “What about in two hours?” “What about overnight?” “If I don’t do anything … Continue reading Worry Not
I’ve been reading Rookie Smarts, Why Learning Beats Knowing in the New Game Of Work, by Liz Wiseman this week. She talks about how rookies tend to enter a new workplace and embark on getting up to speed as quickly as they can, boldly asking lots of questions and seeking out experts. Yet those of … Continue reading Rookie Smarts
I’ve always thought constraints were negative. After all, they tend to speak lack. A constraint can feel like a roadblock to progress. A reason to stop, to chuck the towel in. In Whitney Johnson’s podcast episode titled, Embracing Constraints, she talks about how constraints can actually help us. They can be a catalyst for … Continue reading Embracing constraints
This week I gave a friend advice on how to get from where she was to where I thought she wanted to be. Quickly. Hands dusted, job done! That good advice didn’t pan out well. I felt confronted by a realisation. And not a new one… That instead of giving advice, I need to … Continue reading No more advice!