I can imagine this is a not-for-everyone book due to the frequency of the F-bomb but I have just finished reading and covering with a yellow highlighter, “The subtle art of not giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson.
I found his insights on problem-solving particularly helpful …
Happiness comes from solving problems. The keyword here is “solving.” If you’re avoiding your problems or feel like you don’t have any problems, then you’re going to make yourself miserable. If you feel like you have problems that you can’t solve, you will likewise make yourself miserable. The secret sauce is in solving the problems, not in not having problems in the first place. To be happy we need something to solve. Happiness is therefore a form of action.
He goes on to say that when we are feeling negative about something, that is a call to action – a signal to DO something.
When I get that sinking feeling of “Oh no!” – the overwhelming emotion can derail me. In those moments I forget I’m capable. Too easy to be found wallowing in wishing the problem away.
“If you’re stuck on a problem, don’t sit there and think about it; just start working on it. Even if you don’t know what you’re doing, the simple act of working on it will eventually cause the right ideas to show up in your head.”
Mark Manson’s Math Teacher, Mr. Packwood
I love this. Sometimes problems seem insurmountable but starting is a great place to… begin. A great place to action from…
“Life is essentially an endless series of problems… The solution to one problem is merely the creation of the next one…. Don’t hope for a life without problems. There’s no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.