In an interview with Krista Tippett on the On Being podcast, psychotherapist Esther Perel talked about what gets in the way of desire. She said: “So the question I ask, sometimes, is: “I turn myself off by …” or “I turn myself off when …” My answer: I turn myself off when…. I worry about … Continue reading “I turn myself off by…”
Tag: Worry
Loud Thoughts
I was laying in bed, brooding about my day when it came to me that I was having “Loud thoughts”. Loud because the increased volume and repetition of this thinking were demanding my attention and upsetting my peace. There would be no sleep with all this noise. Loud is insistent. She thinks we should … Continue reading Loud Thoughts
72 hours
Its probably been 25 years+ since I read the book, “The trick to money is having some” by Stuart Wilde but this quote thankfully surfaced in my mind this week... “You don’t need a million dollars necessarily or a stockpile of Swiss francs [or a store cupboard of toilet paper] to feel ok. It … Continue reading 72 hours
Fear-based stress
Today’s COVID-19 update will soon be known. My partner, watching the evening news, will feel compelled to share it with me. He knows I prefer life in a news-free bubble but still, he’ll come and say “I’ll just tell you this …” These updates and others like it, feel like someone’s recount of a … Continue reading Fear-based stress
Dangling carrots
An insight has inspired me to view “upsets” as dangling carrots vying for my attention. “Look at ME”, they say. “Talk about ME.” “Think about ME.” “STAY AWAKE with me!” They distract! Sometimes for hours. Sometimes for days and for one or two “issues”; actual years! Disrupting, distorting, derailing: Progress, productivity, creativity. This dangling carrot: … Continue reading Dangling carrots
Worry Not
Here’s some wisdom on worry that’s worth sharing. Thanks, Dad! Whatever it is that you’re worried about, ask yourself this question… “If I don’t do anything about this situation, what will change in the next 5 minutes?” Extrapolate that question out… “What about in two hours?” “What about overnight?” “If I don’t do anything … Continue reading Worry Not
Belonging vs Fitting in
Brene Brown in an interview with Krista Tippett shared part of her research with a group of middle schoolers around the difference between belonging and fitting in. And they just had these incredibly simple and profound answers: “Fitting in is when you want to be a part of something. Belonging is when others want … Continue reading Belonging vs Fitting in
Imagine
Last night I awoke to the word “imagine” in my head. It felt so soothing and comforting, an actual salve to the worry on my heart. So I reached for my pen in the dark and wrote it down. This beautiful word invited me in. “Try me”, it said. I remember as a kid, … Continue reading Imagine
In all things, at all times
As part of my Lenten practice I am doing a YouVersion bible study. The one I have chosen is called Journeying with Jesus - 40 days Lent Devotional by Susan Narjala. Today I was reading about when Jesus is in the Garden of Gethsemane just before he is arrested and he asks his disciples to … Continue reading In all things, at all times
Hope in
If I hope that I will have a good life, that I will be healthy, that I will get the job, that everything will turn out ok. Hope seems like a good thing. To be hopeful - a positive way of being. But is it? If my hope is grounded in those hoped outcomes, what … Continue reading Hope in
